Saw in the early-mid 90’s. Could have been made in the 80’s. Pretty sure it was a foreign film.
She set fire to a house or shed, possibly owned by a man abusing her, and is assumed she died in the fire. When they were young (possibly both orphans) she did this thing where she would outstretch her arm to look at her hand, and ask the boy if he thought she had pretty hands or something? and then later in life when he encounters the woman, she does the same thing.
It was a movie I saw as a kid, and the memory of it just popped in my head and it’s driving me mad to figure it out.
Any help is much appreciated.